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Download ´ The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow up Whole 104 ¾ ❮Download❯ ➺ The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow up Whole Author Join or create book clubs – Dcmdirect.co.uk Prior to 1990 fewer than five percent of domS growing up years helping that child to grow up whole Prior to fewer than five percent of domestic infant adoptions were open Inpercent or of adoption agencies are recommending open adoption Yet these agencies do not often or adeuately prepare either adopting parents or birth parents for the road ahead of them The adult parties in open adoptions are left floundering There are many resources on why to do open adoption but what about how Open adoption isn't just something parents do when they exchange photos send emails share a visit It's a lifestyle that may feel intrusive at times be difficult or inconvenient at other times Tensions can arise even in the best of circumstances But knowing how to handle these situations and how to continue to make arrangements work for the child involved is paramount This book offers listeners the tools and the insight to do just that It covers common open adoption situations and how real families have navigated typical issues successfully Like all useful parenting books it provides parents with the tools to come to answers on their own and answers uestions that might not yet have come up Through their own stories and those of other families of open adoption Lori and Crystal review the secrets to success the pitfalls and challenges the joys and triumphs By putting the adopted child at the center families can come to enjoy the benefits of open adoption and mitigate the challenges that may arise More than a how to this book shares a mindset a heartset that can be learned and internalized so parents can choose to act out of love and honesty throughout their child's growing up years helping that child to grow up whol. Since the birth our of son through open adoption I have been looking for a book with information and tips on how to raise him in this special family situation We have a wonderful relationship with our birth parents and even birth grandparents but weren't sure how to help guide our son as he grows and learns about his family dynamic I only wish I had found this book sooner as it would have been helpful throughout the entire adoption process Since completing the book only a few days ago I have already recommended to other friends in the adoption process as well as people in our extended open adoption family

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O act out of love and honesty throughout their child's growing up years helping that child to grow up whole Prior to fewer than five percent of domestic infant adoptions were open Inpercent or of adoption agencies are recommending open adoption Yet these agencies do not often or adeuately prepare either adopting parents or birth parents for the road ahead of them The adult parties in open adoptions are left floundering There are many resources on why to do open adoption but what about how Open adoption isn't just something parents do when they exchange photos send emails share a visit It's a lifestyle that may feel intrusive at times be difficult or inconvenient at other times Tensions can arise even in the best of circumstances But knowing how to handle these situations and how to continue to make arrangements work for the child involved is paramount This book offers listeners the tools and the insight to do just that It covers common open adoption situations and how real families have navigated typical issues successfully Like all useful parenting books it provides parents with the tools to come to answers on their own and answers uestions that might not yet have come up Through their own stories and those of other families of open adoption Lori and Crystal review the secrets to success the pitfalls and challenges the joys and triumphs By putting the adopted child at the center families can come to enjoy the benefits of open adoption and mitigate the challenges that may arise More than a how to this book shares a mindset a heartset that can be learned and internalized so parents can choose to act out of love and honesty throughout their child'. Open adoption has moved beyond the experimental stage and become the norm for most contemporary domestic adoptions It has also created awareness that even with international adoptions every effort should be made to gather as much birth family information to preserve and respect these ties and to foster ongoing communication We now recognize that connection to and respect for an adopted child’s biological roots is integral to successfully unify their dual heritage Still the concept remains shrouded in apprehension confusion and curiosity How is it possible for a child to have two sets of parents involved in their livesuestions abound in the minds of prospective adopters as well as expectant parents contemplating adoption for their unborn child Do we need a contract Is it enforceable Desirable Isn’t open adoption confusing for the child These and many issues are addressed in The Open hearted Way to Open Adoption by Lori Holden and Crystal Hass They are the adoptive mother and birthmother who have an open adoption relationshipThere are many reasons to recommend this excellent book It overflows with practical suggestions for how to navigate the constantly changing seas that permeate open adoption Not just for adoptive parents it offers ideas for all members of the triad because the three are inextricably connected Each will be a permanent part of the child Only the degree and level of involvement will vary The influences of DNA are forever just as the influence of the adoptive family’s nurturing will permanently shape the child Lori refers to these factors as biology and biographyLori and Crystal Hass the birthmother of one of Lori’s children share strategies ideas and personal anecdotes that are valuable sensible and practical They offer options not a specific blueprint for every adoptive family to follow This makes sense since each adoption is uniue Their honesty and shared experience provide a window into living an open adoption journey They reveal that open adoption is not without challenges and suggest “Talking about it and bringing your emotions up to a conscious level allows a healing release to occur and prevents misunderstandings from cropping up”But the greatest value of The Open hearted Way to Open Adoption is the philosophical assumption that underpins the book open adoption is fundamentally an attitude that must infuse the relationship and all of the parenting decisions The child’s best interest is the foundational premise This may sound like an obvious fact but all too often—especially in the past–adoption considers the comfort level fears and of the adults over the needs of the child Yes each of these is an important factor but the foremost criteria must to be child focused Many fear that children will be confused or distressed by having an ongoing relationship with a birth parents Lori responds “Openness is not the cause of any eruptions but instead can actually be part of the solution to them If you’ve established an open relationship with your child he is likely to allow you into his innermost thoughts and fears He then doesn’t have to face them without you But if you are closed he is alone” emphasis addedThe Open hearted Way to Open Adoption is a positive and inspiring book that will touch your heart as well as provide you with persuasive practical and useful ideas I am an adoption coach and a mom of now adult children who came to us in the 1980s through closed adoptions My children have reconnected with their birth mothers and I have seen first hand the beneficial impact this reunion has brought all of us but most especially my children and their birth mothers Lori points out that she takes her children to various professional who can provide services that she cannot physician dentist therapist etc She writes “I can’t fill a certain emotional need that Tessa has but I can take her to the well” Tessa’s birth mother Crystal That is love and that is parenting with a child’s best interest at heart I would assert that no adoptive parent want to leave their children unsupported as they process difficult parts of the adoption experienceOpen adoption is not easy nor is it perfect but it is far better than the old secrecy based closed adoptions The greatest ingredient to success is a heart connected attitude This book offers a welcome worthwhile resource for parents who are embarking on the adventure of open adoption parenting As Lori writes “Open adoption is a journey rather than a destination” Gayle H Swift ABC Adoption

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